BI-KINK CLUB (North London) March 23rd, 2018

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BI-KINK CLUB (North London) March 23rd, 2018

Free Drinks! Creative Music! Intelligent People! Open Minds! New Venue!

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This adult sex party is for bisexual or bi-curious kinky fetishists. Another bizarre event with the same open-minded and creative approach to sex as a base line.

* FREE DRINKS ALL NIGHT (Alc & Soft)!!!

* MALES, FEMALES, TV/TS/CD

* STRAIGHT, GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL

* FULL-ON PLAY ORGY

* 2 FLOORS, 4 ROOMS

* LARGE FULLY FURNISHED DUNGEON

* LARGE BOUDOIR WITH 4-POSTER BED

* OUTDOOR SMOKING AREA

* SHOWERS

* RESIDENT DOMINATRIX

* FEMALE & MALE STEWARDS

* GREAT MUSIC

* OPEN-MINDED, INTELLIGENT CROWD

Bi-Kink Club is explicitly for bisexual males and females as well as TV/CD/TS or gender-fluid people and those of ANY SEXUALITY and/or gender-identity. We also welcome single males and single females, as well as couples and poly-groups of any configuration.

As always: we simply offer more for less (like free alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks all night, a free secure & staffed cloakroom, etc), a brilliantly sexy, unpretentiously friendly, respectful and intelligent crowd of creatively colourful people from all sorts of backgrounds, ages, nationalities, races, sexualities and sexual identities.

This party is a full-on sex orgy. M/M, F/F, M/M/F, F/F/M etc. activity is explicitly welcome!!!

We welcome experienced players as well as newbies and those of you who are bi-curious and like to experience your fantasies in real life, in a safe, sane and sexy environment.

If you are looking for respectful, free-spirited, open-minded, sexually intelligent bisexual play-mates then this is the party for you!

READ REVIEWS & FEEDBACK HERE: http://www.bizarre-events.com/reviews

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TICKETS

Tickets and memberships will be sold on the DOOR ONLY for this event. Membership IS REQUIRED because these are exclusively PRIVATE events. We have tried to make the prices as fair as possible for everyone, no matter whether you are male, female or 'anything' else.

STUDENT DISCOUNTS are available. Please contact us directly about these.

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THE VENUE

One of London's newest, most unusual, luxurious and appropriately kinky fetish venues in North East London (E17). The BRAND (SPANKING) NEW incarnation of a well-established, internationally famous, purpose-fitted and very luxurious BDSM dungeon and kinky play-space, which also hosts upmarket kink- and fetish related photo and video shoots.

Our venue is extremely well connected and can easily be reached via public transport. There are various bus stops very close by, and there is a nearby 24-hour tube / underground line running to & from Central London. If you arrive by car then you will find ample available and free parking right outside.

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**Downstairs** (Reception, Cloakroom, Bar, Smoking Area, Boudoir)

The downstairs venue consists of an elegant Reception Area with leather sofas with separate staffed Cloakroom, a welcoming (and of course free!!!) Bar with service area, tables and chairs, as well as a Fridge (if you want to bring your own drinks) and access to a private Smoking Area. And of course there is the truly sumptuous Boudoir Room with a beautiful, large Four-Poster Bed.

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**Upstairs** (Dungeon)

The upstairs venue offers a large, furnished, large Dungeon space, fully equipped with many bespoke pieces, including:

* Custom four poster bondage bed with cage underneath

* Gothic series steel St Andrews cross

* Gothic series steel bondage chair

* Custom mummification bench

* Versatile leather upholstered spanking/examination bench

* Versatile leather upholstered bondage horse

* Steel black powder coated fetters puppy cage

* Steel black powder coated suspension frame

* Huge dark wood and leather Goddess throne

* Huge raised custom steel throne/bondage chair

* Fetters bondage wheel

* Steel bondage chair with cut out

* Steel vertical dancers/bondage pole

We will of course, as always, provide fresh Towels & Toiletries and condoms for free.

WHO SHOULD GO

All of our adult parties are explicitly Pan-Sexual. Everyone is welcome! That means that literally anyone is genuinely welcome, whether you are straight, bi, gay, male, female, transgender, transsexual, a cross dresser or a voyeur.

Single males, single females, couples (MM, MF, FF) are all welcome. Anything goes... The only thing that matters is that you are open-minded, respectful and very, very sexual.

FREE DRINKS

There will be a very generous amount of drinks available (soft drinks, beer & wine). But please do bring your own favourite drinks as well if you like. Glasses will be provided and there is a fridge.

FREE CLOAKROOM

We have a staffed, secure cloakroom where you can check in your clothes and belongings. You will have access to your bags throughout the night. Our cloakroom is free of charge.

DRESS CODE

While we do NOT enforce a strict dress code for this event we VERY MUCH ENCOURAGE all forms of sexy and kinky fetish clothing, uniforms, sexy outfits, lingerie and COMPLETE NUDITY. Be creative, make an effort and have fun!!! Whatever turns you on...

MALE & FEMALE STEWARDS

Our events are always supervised by male and female Stewards / DMs who are available to answer any questions you might have, and to make sure everyone has a good time. They are also responsible to enforce our Event & Club Rules.

RESIDENT DOMINATRIX

She may, at her discretion and solely for her own personal pleasure, decide to dispense Her purifying corporal punishment and humiliation to those yet uninitiated. Or perhaps you are already experienced but yet uncorrected..?

SIA LICENSED SECURITY

All of our events are professionally protected by SIA licensed door & security staff.

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ABOUT US

Hi - We are Nina & Aidan, and besides of being natural 'perverts' and predispositioned fetishists we also have many years of first-hand and direct experience in the adult industry working as a PROUDLY independent escort couple specialising in kinky & extreme sex and fetishes: 'London's Hottest Bi-Sexual M/F Escort Couple'

For quite a while now we have grown more and more frustrated with the lack of full-on adult sex parties catering to extreme kinks and fetishes. This sort of party normally ONLY happens in the gay scene (Aidan's enjoyed many of those but Nina's always left out - and that's simply not good enough). So, that's why 6 years ago we thought of this...

Basically, we are creating the kind European-type of adult sex party we dreamed of as kinky fetishists but were unable to find anywhere. Somewhere to make our fantasies and perversions a reality - in a safe, sane, consensual, clean and sexy environment.

Lots of Love,

Nina & Aidan xXx

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Therapy and BDSM (by Stoltz Sinatra)

"The academic world has gradually taken an interest in researching world of BDSM and there are a few good studies out there. But BDSM is still a sort of uncharted territory in terms of collected academic knowledge.

There might be a lot of reason for this: Maybe we don’t want to be researched as we just want to continue to do “our thing” that is perfectly normal to us? Another reason might be that the academic world is not always ready to deal with what some ignorant people would label as “morally controversial research areas”.

I believe that research is good, ignorance is usually based on lack of knowledge and with more research comes more knowledge. Good and honest research will hopefully lead to a better understanding and acceptance.

There is still a great deal of stigma connected to revealing to people that you are into BDSM as we don’t know what will happen when we do this."

READ MORE: http://islandofpain.com/therapy-and-bdsm/

Love,

Aidan xXx
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On Erotic Power Play - Video by Dr. Gabriele Hoff

Dr. Gabriele Hoff is a doctor of psychology (Psy.D.) a presenter at international conferences, and a film maker, with the focus on helping depathologize alternative sexuality, especially consensual erotic powerplay and BDSM.

Dr. Hoff has interviewed a group of people about Erotic Power Play and has done a couple of documentaries about the subject. Here’s a snippet from one of them. Enjoy!

Love,

Aidan x

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Human Furniture

What a truly beautiful kink!

I have always been one for degradation rather than humiliation personally (on both ends of the cane). And the ultimate degradation could quite possibly be total objectification.

Forniphilia concerns itself with the objectification of a person into a usable piece of furniture. It would be great to hear from those of you experienced in this form of play what your ideas behind it are.

Would you perhaps like to share past play-scenes or ideas for future ones here?

Also, how do the bondage and the obedience aspect interact? Is it important to you that the slave / sub is bound into position, or do you prefer a display of total obedience as an object (absence of free will as a person during the session)?

Looking forward to your ideas & comments!

Love,

Aidan xXx


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Asking Your Partner To Join You In Your Kink...

More often than not our kinky fetish lives are kept very separate, hidden from our everyday 'vanilla' lives for one reason or another.

But let's say you have a partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife who are not yet  involved in (or even aware of) your delicious preferences but ideally you would like them to share this wonderful world with you...

If you are already in an existing relationship, how do you bring up the subject? How do you go about asking your partner to join you in your kinky / fetish exploits? How do you 'correctly' and sensitively communicate your desires to your partner? And what are the pitfalls to look out for?

We'd love to hear about your experiences, hint & tips on this subject. Thanks for your responses – this is a very important subject, and not just for newbies actually.

Love,

Aidan BiZarre xxx


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Can A Experienced Sub Teach An Inexperienced Dom?

Can a newbie Dominant be 'taken under the wing' of a more experienced submissive and mentored without reversing the D/s dynamic?

If so, what are some things that could help reinforce the D/s roles while allowing the submissive to teach the Dominant?

It'd be great to hear your thoughts on this...

Love,

Aidan x


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Aftercare - How Do You Do It?

Aftercare, following a BDSM / Kink 'play scene' is very, very important in my opinion. But preciously little is it a subject for discussion, from what I gather...

It'd be great to hear from you Dom(me)s and subs what you think.


For example:

• What do you do for aftercare?
• Also, how do you do it?
• What is important to you?
• Does aftercare feature in your 'play scene' negotiations?
• What about when playing with a long-term partner versus when playing with a casual partner?

Looking forward to hearing people's thoughts on this!

Love,

Aidan xXx


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You've Tied Your Partner To The Bed - What's Next?

Right, so you've secured your partner's wrists and ankles to the bed posts (obviously making sure their joints are in a comfortable position, there's a little slack and that you're not cutting off their blood circulation).

They are looking at you eagerly, wide-eyed, ready for almost anything. And here's the question: WHAT DO YOU DO NEXT?

And for you subbies: WHAT WOULD TURN YOU ON THE MOST IF IT HAPPENED TO YOU WHILE YOU'RE TIED UP?

Be creative, be pervy, go on, share your ideas with the other readers. Very much looking forward to your replies...!!!

Love,

Aidan BiZarre xXx


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Porn Talk: A Conversation (Part I)

Psychology Tomorrow Magazine presents the first in a series of conversations between Nica Noelle, porn director, actor, and media journalist and Benjamin Peck, attorney, porn actor and frequent contributor to Psychology Tomorrow Magazine.

Here, Nica and Ben discuss feminist porn, sexual identity, gender roles and women’s desires in relation to porn.

"BP: Do you consider yourself a feminist porn creator? In your view, what are the most salient characteristics of feminist porn? Do you think feminist porn suffers from any conceptual flaws? If you do, in what ways do you think they could be remedied?

NN: I think the term “feminist porn” is both inaccurate and unfortunate, but I can see why the mainstream media latched onto it: it’s catchy, and when used in a headline it has traction. But no, I don’t consider myself a “feminist porn creator.”

First of all, the word “feminism” has far too many political connotations, many which are negative or alienating to men (and to women, for that matter) to be useful in this context. That aside, it’s my understanding that originally “feminist porn” was meant to describe erotic films created by women who were taking a more sensitive and thoughtful approach to their work than the average (male) porn producer. The implication being this was “good” porn, not “sleazy” porn. Also that it was “ethical” porn, though I’m not sure why that assumption should follow. The notion that porn is somehow better or more ethical just because a woman is behind the camera is complete nonsense and understandably insulting to men.

What we’re seeing in porn right now is a changing of the guard and a new, emerging sensibility, but it has nothing to do with feminism. Feminists didn’t come in and take over – fans just started demanding better porn, because the Internet has allowed them a safe way to do it. Now fans can anonymously voice their pleasure and displeasure about a movie, which they could never do before the Internet. Fans can write film reviews and blogs and generate “buzz” for certain titles. Also, now we have access to market research because of VOD (video on demand), when for so long there was no market research in porn. All of that has resulted in fans being able to demand a higher quality product and reward filmmakers who give it to them.

But feminists didn’t come in and revolutionize anything. Male consumers are still the backbone of the adult industry, and men were the first to ask for and reward better story lines, more realistic sex and higher production values. So, while it’s wonderful that so many women have become more vocal about what they want to see and are openly identifying as “porn fans,” we certainly don’t need to give the credit for “better porn” to the feminist community. We don’t need to attach gender politics to it at all.

Like most industries, adult film has been forced to evolve to survive in the changing economical and technical landscape. That meant providing fans with a better product and responding to their needs. And as a result of those increased standards, people who would have never considered a career in adult films ten years ago are now coming here with artistic agendas – both behind and in front of the camera. There’s a growing perception that adult film has become a legitimate medium for artistic expression and it’s attracting more serious-minded people."

READ MORE: http://www.psychologytomorrowmagazine.com/a-conversation-between-porn-stars-nica-noelle-and-ben-peck/

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Porn Talk: A Conversation (Part II)

Psychology Tomorrow Magazine presents the first in a series of conversations between Nica Noelle, porn director, actor, and media journalist and Benjamin Peck, attorney, porn actor and frequent contributor to Psychology Tomorrow Magazine.

Here, Nica and Ben discuss feminist porn, sexual identity, gender roles and women’s desires in relation to porn.

"BP: How important is context/storyline in your porn? As I understand it, feminist porn provides a compelling link between “mere sex” and the reason why the sex is taking place. In your work, do you think well-established context makes the sex hotter?

NN: I don’t think it’s true that “feminist porn” innovated story lines. Story-line driven adult films have been around for decades. Not only that, but many of the titles screened at this year’s Feminist Porn Awards had no storylines at all – there were a lot of artsy, avant garde type-offerings, with poetry voice-overs and that sort of thing.

If I had to give you a definition for the term “feminist porn,” it would be a sexually explicit movie created by a woman, not “for” other women, but purely for her own sense of sexual expression. That definition would ring true to me, because it removes the viewer’s desire from the equation, and it removes the “male gaze” from the equation. It’s about a woman in complete control of the way her sexuality is depicted. I think you could call a film like that “feminist porn” and it would be an accurate description.

Storyline is very important in my films, but only as a tool to build excitement for the sex. After all, the viewer is watching porn because she wants to be aroused; otherwise she could rent a mainstream movie or just turn on the TV. The only thing I can offer her that mainstream filmmakers can’t are depictions of explicit sex, so that’s what I need to focus on.

So the next question is, what makes sex hot? Forbidden attraction is high on the list. Lusting after someone you’re “not supposed to” lust after. Whether it’s an inappropriate attraction due to age difference, race, family relations, a teacher and student, a boss and employee – there are so many areas in life where we’re told not to act on our sexual attraction. So I try to exploit that theme as much as possible while giving the viewer a situation he can relate to. Not many of us can relate to falling for the pizza delivery guy and inviting him in for sex, but we can relate to having a secret crush on our teacher, or on our brother’s girlfriend.

In constructing the dialogue and story, I try to stay away from anything that doesn’t build tension and increase excitement for the sex scene. My job is to arouse, and so the story line, the dialogue, everything is structured with that end in mind. By the time the characters in the movie have sex, I want their sense of urgency to be believable, and I want the viewer to be craving a sexual release right along with them. If I can accomplish that, the movie is a success."

READ MORE: http://www.psychologytomorrowmagazine.com/ben-peck-nica-noelle-porn-talk-conversation-part-ii/

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How To Please Your Submissive

Ok, let's turn the tables here... How do you please your submissive?

All consensual relationships obviously are give & take and your subbie will have their requirements, needs, wants and also enjoy some special 'treats', right?

It'd be nice to hear from you what you do to make sure your sub's 'happy' and content. How do you look after them?

And you subbies, please tell us what pleases you, makes you happy, where your special delight comes from and what it is about?

Thanks for sharing,

Aidan xXx

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Think Kink - BiZarre Events' Free Mini-Zine

 Hello All - I'm pretty sure I've just given birth...

Here is the first edition of BiZarre Event's (free) 'Think Kink' mini-zine. This small but of course perfectly well-endowed little fellow provides an introduction to the world of fetish and kink to those wonderful souls as yet uninitiated to such pleasures.

The mini-mag is printed on a single sheet of A4 paper and then niftily folded into this brilliant little publication. When I first saw this clever solution for self-publishing I just HAD to do something with it!

I'll get these to the printers now, and once they're back we'll make them available in the right places. Please let me know if you'd like a few copies to hand out. There'll also be a downloadable version (PDF) on our website soon.

I hope you like it!

Love,

Aidan BiZarre xXx

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Slave or Submissive - What's The Difference?

How do you personally define the difference between a 'slave' and a 'submissive'?

The general feeling amongst intelligent, consensual players is of course that everyone is free to define those terms in any way they see fit. And I agree, but I also feel that, not only for newbies, it is important to try and define this sort of label at least once, for oneself.

How about these statements for example?

A slave is someone who has 'given up all rights of individuality and self-determination'.

Or how about this one: 'A slave is not neccessarily submissive'...

Or perhaps 'these terms define a certain level of permnanence in the relationship'?

What do you think?

Love,

Aidan x

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A Misunderstanding... Kink and Fetish

Here's one for the more experienced of you.

I'm asking you, from the inside looking out, what are the greatest, biggest misconceptions about our lifestyle, kink and fetish by those not actually involved?

This is one place to help correct wrong ideas, adjust misaligned views and eliminate unfair prejudices...

One that always gets me is the assumption that a Dom/sub relationship is automatically not one between equals, even abusive and violent...

What do you think? What other examples do you have?

Love,

Aidan x

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SSC, RACK, PRICK, CCC...???

If you don't know what these mean you should DEFINITELY READ THIS!

Yes, these acronyms are all somewhat controversial on the scene...

But nevertheless they describe ideologies and approaches to play that are fundamentally important to be aware of understand before even thinking of playing with anyone.

It'd be great to have your input on this subject!

Love,

Aidan xXx


SSC - Safe, Sane, & Consensual

It is held with the focus on the Sanity for safety and consent of the bottom. Although considered best among all, the top has many limits, as he/she is abide to the consent of the partner, and should not do anything that can risk the safety of the partner, even if that is being desired. This limitation is something that is 'undesired' by many, as they want better Power Exchange between them, with more power for the Top.


RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink

This is technically a replacement of SSC, and allows the activities that are prohibited by SSC (for being Unsafe with respect to Sanity). The basic concept is that, as far as the practitioners are aware of the 'Risks' involved, they should go for the activities. However, 'True Consent' is the major requirement. This one can allow more sets of activities, but psychologically in this one, the 'Bottom' has more power, as the activities are solely based on the bottom's needs. It was made based on the aspect that most of the activities in Kink cannot be 100% 'safe', and we have to take some risks. So the focus here is on 'Risk Awareness', and not on the 'Safety based on Sanity'. More and more practitioners have started to call their themselves RACK instead of SSC. However, outside the BDSM community, SSC is the most popular one to define the ideology of kinksters.


PRICK - Personal-Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink

Somewhat new and unpopular term, PRICK is an extension of RACK, which only adds a single clause to Rack (while keeping everything else same) that both the partners are responsible for their own actions. This is more like risk transfer from Top to Bottom, which suggests mainly that when a 'Bottom' has consent and agrees for an activity, he/she is responsible for the activity, and not the Top (who is actually the practitioner of the activity). In this term, Bottom has more Power than Top, as compare to RACK. Although much similar to RACK, the satisfaction in the mind of TOP allows better activities due to lesser rick involved for herself/himself. For many, the usage of PRICK does not make sense, also because of the literal meaning of 'Prick'.



CCC - Committed Compassionate Consensual

Very recently introduced term, CCC has also become popular in some small groups of BDSM. What all the other three BDSM guidelines lack, CCC has, but obviously for lesser security for the bottom. CCC is technically the maximum power exchange from Bottom to Top, and is more appropriate for TPE (Total Power Exchange) or 24/7 relationships, rather than the session activities with professionals or short term groups/couples. In this, instead of Bottom's desires and required activities, only 'Unwanted' and 'Undesired' activities are defined. In other sense, only 'Hard Limits' are disclosed. Then Top chooses/decides all the activities - when and what, himself/herself. Even 'Safewords' are not permitted. This true power exchange is desired by many, but the risks involved in this are very high. However, some 'Open Discussions' can be conducted for the changes in 'Hard Limits' so that it remains in the boundaries of consensuality, which is the base of BDSM. CCC sounds easy and satisfactory for most, but very few people can actually go for it. As soon as they realize the Risks associated, and the difficulties of handling the situations properly, they quickly revert to any of the three other concepts and adopt them appropriately.

Please note: Not all practitioners know about all these terms and not all of them consider them following these guidelines. Some avoid them and some even use different terminologies. It is also important to notice that these guidelines have no status in any of the legal systems.


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BDSM / Fetish Playlist (a PDF by Jrsygir1 - 6/2000)

"This list was inspired by many existing lists on the internet....it was prepared and is intended for
educational purposes only and should not be used for commercial gain..... please feel free to reproduce and distribute this document free of charge anywhere on the internet or in print.

This is a Playlist that may help couples figure out what their wants and needs are. Personally I dont like playlists but sometimes they are good communication tools. When someone fills it out they should indicate if they are filling it out for their ultimate Dominant/Top partner or for someone in
particular, taking into consideration the nature of the relationship.

In other words if I were filling it out for my longtime Dominant partner it would look different than if I were filling it out for a new casual play partner. Some of the answers would be different based on the nature of the relationship and the level of trust involved.

Please note: nothing in my opinion takes the place of chemistry and face to face communication."

Enjoy! Axxx

http://www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/SM_BD_DS/Checklist/BDSMFetishPlaylist.pdf


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When is the Right Time to Tell a (New) Partner About Kink?

Ah, this is a good one, isn't it...?

It brings up all sorts of questions about honesty, the importance of certain aspects of your personality, trust, fear of loosing someone, embarrasment even.

When do you 'come out' as a 'perv'. Right at the beginning of a new relationship? Maybe after a few dates? In the bedroom? In the pub? Or once you've decided it's getting 'serious'? Maybe you don't tell them at all...?

Let us know what you think, and share your own experiences if you like.

Love & kisses,

Aidan xXx

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How Do You Come Up With A Good Screen / Scene Name?

Male Model Stas Fedyanin

Obviuosly, it is a very good idea indeed to NOT use your real name online (anywhere, not just on fetish and kink related websites) for privacy and security reasons, I'm sure you'll all agree.

But that throws up the question of how to choose an appropriate name for your online presence.

What are the criteria? What makes a 'good' name? What's important? What should you definitely not do? What made you choos your's (if you have one)?

It'd be very interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

Love,

Aidan xXx


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Cracking the Code of Sexual Chemistry (by Stanley Siegel, LCSW)

"We’ve all had the experience of seeing someone on the street or in a social setting and feeling an instant attraction.

Our eyes lock, our pulse races, everyone else in the room disappears. Other times, attraction sneaks up on us slowly as we get to know someone. One day we realize that we are very sexually attracted to them.

Whether it is their hair, body, voice,  smell, or their attitude and behavior, that attracts us, we attribute it to the mysteries of chemistry."


READ MORE:  http://www.psychologytomorrowmagazine.com/cracking-the-code-of-sexual-chemistry/

Love,

Aidan xXx

Image: “The Sleep of the Beloved” by Paul Schneggenburger

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Monogamy and Kink?

Here's a wonderful contribution by one of our readers:

So here's one for you.. who's sick of kink having to equal no one seems able to sustain a single partner any more?

i am relatively new to kink activity but i cannot see why it has to be so lacking in willingness to stick to one person at a time.. for me, kink is better when i get to know one partner well, rather than this wafer thin spread it as far as you can competition i see going on..

it seems like i am a dinosaur or something outre, expecting fidelity from my dirty boi or grrl.. what are your thoughts on this? i am not trying to piss off the open honest poly people or those simply looking honestly for casual, but there are a raft pf fakes and phoneys out there, professing to be seeking a partner when they actually end up meaning they want you and anyone else as well... is it just a hopeless thing, or just the wrong people?

interested to see if anyone else has had some fucktards promise fidelity and end up being just another cunt wanting to get their end away.. pfft.

Personally i would rather develop a wicked deep level of kink with a like minded pervert, and explore that well, before i maybe add others to the mix, if at all.. it just seems like a walk thru the sea of most person's souls would hardly get your feet wet lol....

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