Friday, 29 November 2013

A Misunderstanding... Kink and Fetish

Here's one for the more experienced of you.

I'm asking you, from the inside looking out, what are the greatest, biggest misconceptions about our lifestyle, kink and fetish by those not actually involved?

This is one place to help correct wrong ideas, adjust misaligned views and eliminate unfair prejudices...

One that always gets me is the assumption that a Dom/sub relationship is automatically not one between equals, even abusive and violent...

What do you think? What other examples do you have?

Love,

Aidan x

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Wednesday, 27 November 2013

SSC, RACK, PRICK, CCC...???

If you don't know what these mean you should DEFINITELY READ THIS!

Yes, these acronyms are all somewhat controversial on the scene...

But nevertheless they describe ideologies and approaches to play that are fundamentally important to be aware of understand before even thinking of playing with anyone.

It'd be great to have your input on this subject!

Love,

Aidan xXx


SSC - Safe, Sane, & Consensual

It is held with the focus on the Sanity for safety and consent of the bottom. Although considered best among all, the top has many limits, as he/she is abide to the consent of the partner, and should not do anything that can risk the safety of the partner, even if that is being desired. This limitation is something that is 'undesired' by many, as they want better Power Exchange between them, with more power for the Top.


RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink

This is technically a replacement of SSC, and allows the activities that are prohibited by SSC (for being Unsafe with respect to Sanity). The basic concept is that, as far as the practitioners are aware of the 'Risks' involved, they should go for the activities. However, 'True Consent' is the major requirement. This one can allow more sets of activities, but psychologically in this one, the 'Bottom' has more power, as the activities are solely based on the bottom's needs. It was made based on the aspect that most of the activities in Kink cannot be 100% 'safe', and we have to take some risks. So the focus here is on 'Risk Awareness', and not on the 'Safety based on Sanity'. More and more practitioners have started to call their themselves RACK instead of SSC. However, outside the BDSM community, SSC is the most popular one to define the ideology of kinksters.


PRICK - Personal-Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink

Somewhat new and unpopular term, PRICK is an extension of RACK, which only adds a single clause to Rack (while keeping everything else same) that both the partners are responsible for their own actions. This is more like risk transfer from Top to Bottom, which suggests mainly that when a 'Bottom' has consent and agrees for an activity, he/she is responsible for the activity, and not the Top (who is actually the practitioner of the activity). In this term, Bottom has more Power than Top, as compare to RACK. Although much similar to RACK, the satisfaction in the mind of TOP allows better activities due to lesser rick involved for herself/himself. For many, the usage of PRICK does not make sense, also because of the literal meaning of 'Prick'.



CCC - Committed Compassionate Consensual

Very recently introduced term, CCC has also become popular in some small groups of BDSM. What all the other three BDSM guidelines lack, CCC has, but obviously for lesser security for the bottom. CCC is technically the maximum power exchange from Bottom to Top, and is more appropriate for TPE (Total Power Exchange) or 24/7 relationships, rather than the session activities with professionals or short term groups/couples. In this, instead of Bottom's desires and required activities, only 'Unwanted' and 'Undesired' activities are defined. In other sense, only 'Hard Limits' are disclosed. Then Top chooses/decides all the activities - when and what, himself/herself. Even 'Safewords' are not permitted. This true power exchange is desired by many, but the risks involved in this are very high. However, some 'Open Discussions' can be conducted for the changes in 'Hard Limits' so that it remains in the boundaries of consensuality, which is the base of BDSM. CCC sounds easy and satisfactory for most, but very few people can actually go for it. As soon as they realize the Risks associated, and the difficulties of handling the situations properly, they quickly revert to any of the three other concepts and adopt them appropriately.

Please note: Not all practitioners know about all these terms and not all of them consider them following these guidelines. Some avoid them and some even use different terminologies. It is also important to notice that these guidelines have no status in any of the legal systems.


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BDSM / Fetish Playlist (a PDF by Jrsygir1 - 6/2000)

"This list was inspired by many existing lists on the internet....it was prepared and is intended for
educational purposes only and should not be used for commercial gain..... please feel free to reproduce and distribute this document free of charge anywhere on the internet or in print.

This is a Playlist that may help couples figure out what their wants and needs are. Personally I dont like playlists but sometimes they are good communication tools. When someone fills it out they should indicate if they are filling it out for their ultimate Dominant/Top partner or for someone in
particular, taking into consideration the nature of the relationship.

In other words if I were filling it out for my longtime Dominant partner it would look different than if I were filling it out for a new casual play partner. Some of the answers would be different based on the nature of the relationship and the level of trust involved.

Please note: nothing in my opinion takes the place of chemistry and face to face communication."

Enjoy! Axxx

http://www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/SM_BD_DS/Checklist/BDSMFetishPlaylist.pdf


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What About Pony Play..?

Here's a subject I happen to know not much about myself... The little bit I do know is that Pony Play is / can be highly aesthetic, beautiful and it seems very liberating and simply fun.

It's also a rather popular fetish and I thought it'd be nice to hear from you who are practicing Pony Play what this is really about for you, what your experiences are, how you got into it, etc. And please do feel free to also post pictures and photographs of course...

Again, thanks for sharing!

Love, Aidan xXx


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Saturday, 23 November 2013

Tonight! Q U Ǝ E R L O N D O N - Alternative XXX Fetish Sex Night Club


Tonight @ 156 Wells Way, Camberwell, London SE5 7SY, 11pm-6am!

* FREE DRINKS ALL NIGHT (Alc & Soft)!!!
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See you tonight!

Lots of Love,

Nina & Aidan xXx


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Friday, 22 November 2013

At Kink / Fetish Events: What Can I Expect, And What (If Anything) Is Expected Of Me?

Here's another one which may seem obvious and relatively easy to answer for experienced kinksters. But of course, if you've never ever been to a 'full-on' fetish/kink event your mind will work overtime, thinking about what to expect and also what is expected of you.

Entering a fetish / kink event where people meet to play in all sorts of ways (perhaps even with partner/s present) is arguably the most complex social situation anyone is ever likely to find themselves in.

Every club worth its salt will have their 'rules of engagement' spelled out clearly way before the event. And there you'll find rules like 'no means no', 'don't physically interact with anyone unless explicitly invited to do so', etc.

(You can find our's here on our website for example: http://www.bizarre-events.com/#!club-rules/c20nk ).

But what is the reality like? What are your hints and tips for those new to the scene? Have you ever 'broken' one of these rules by accident (I'm sure most of us have done at some point)? How was that dealt with? What were /are  your expectations? How do those expectations translate into reality? Are there different rules for Ms and Fs?

Your thoughts are very much appreciated.

Love,

Aidan x

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Thursday, 21 November 2013

When is the Right Time to Tell a (New) Partner About Kink?

Ah, this is a good one, isn't it...?

It brings up all sorts of questions about honesty, the importance of certain aspects of your personality, trust, fear of loosing someone, embarrasment even.

When do you 'come out' as a 'perv'. Right at the beginning of a new relationship? Maybe after a few dates? In the bedroom? In the pub? Or once you've decided it's getting 'serious'? Maybe you don't tell them at all...?

Let us know what you think, and share your own experiences if you like.

Love & kisses,

Aidan xXx

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Wednesday, 20 November 2013

How Do You Come Up With A Good Screen / Scene Name?

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Obviuosly, it is a very good idea indeed to NOT use your real name online (anywhere, not just on fetish and kink related websites) for privacy and security reasons, I'm sure you'll all agree.

But that throws up the question of how to choose an appropriate name for your online presence.

What are the criteria? What makes a 'good' name? What's important? What should you definitely not do? What made you choos your's (if you have one)?

It'd be very interesting to hear your thoughts on this.

Love,

Aidan xXx


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Cracking the Code of Sexual Chemistry (by Stanley Siegel, LCSW)

"We’ve all had the experience of seeing someone on the street or in a social setting and feeling an instant attraction.

Our eyes lock, our pulse races, everyone else in the room disappears. Other times, attraction sneaks up on us slowly as we get to know someone. One day we realize that we are very sexually attracted to them.

Whether it is their hair, body, voice,  smell, or their attitude and behavior, that attracts us, we attribute it to the mysteries of chemistry."


READ MORE:  http://www.psychologytomorrowmagazine.com/cracking-the-code-of-sexual-chemistry/

Love,

Aidan xXx

Image: “The Sleep of the Beloved” by Paul Schneggenburger

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Monday, 18 November 2013

Monogamy and Kink?

Here's a wonderful contribution by one of our readers:

So here's one for you.. who's sick of kink having to equal no one seems able to sustain a single partner any more?

i am relatively new to kink activity but i cannot see why it has to be so lacking in willingness to stick to one person at a time.. for me, kink is better when i get to know one partner well, rather than this wafer thin spread it as far as you can competition i see going on..

it seems like i am a dinosaur or something outre, expecting fidelity from my dirty boi or grrl.. what are your thoughts on this? i am not trying to piss off the open honest poly people or those simply looking honestly for casual, but there are a raft pf fakes and phoneys out there, professing to be seeking a partner when they actually end up meaning they want you and anyone else as well... is it just a hopeless thing, or just the wrong people?

interested to see if anyone else has had some fucktards promise fidelity and end up being just another cunt wanting to get their end away.. pfft.

Personally i would rather develop a wicked deep level of kink with a like minded pervert, and explore that well, before i maybe add others to the mix, if at all.. it just seems like a walk thru the sea of most person's souls would hardly get your feet wet lol....

discuss



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The Art of Sensual Spanking with Miss Severity Myers

When: Thursday 14th Nov, bubbles and cupcakes from 6.30pm, workshop from 7pm.

Where: Sh! Store, 57 Hoxton Square, London, N1 6HD

My sensual spanking workshop for ladies only at the fabulous Sh! store in Hoxton this Thursday evening is almost sold out. So if you feel in need of learning a few sensual spanking secrets to drive your partner wild book your tickets here:

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Living Dolls - What do you think? Sexy? Creepy? Both?

"Did you know about the 'Barbie Flu'? Real-life women (and men!) are converting themselves into living dolls by any means necessary. Sexy or creepy?"
Check out this site / gallery:
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Besides Your Fetish / Kink Profile Text What Else Is Important?

We've recently had a very good discussion about how to write the 'perfect' profile text for Kink & Fetish Websites like Fetlife.

Today I'd like to ask you:

BESIDES YOUR PROFILE WHAT ELSE IS IMPORTANT?



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Friday, 8 November 2013

QUEER LONDON - FETISH, SEX & TECHNO!!!


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Friday, 1 November 2013

Ballerina Bondage Fairies

Some very sexy / explicit photographs for all you fellow pervs.

"Gathered here: the kinky, the flexible, the beautiful. The afterhours activities of private dancers."

http://ballerinabondagefairies.tumblr.com/

 Love,

Aidan x


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